Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri

After a month of fasting comes a month of feasting!

Technically, the celebration of the end of Ramadhan — known as Eid ul Fitr in Arabic but referred to as Hari Raya Aidilfitri in Malaysia (or Raya for short) — is only on the first day of the month of Syawwal. In Malaysia, however, the celebrations last for the whole month of Syawwal.

So how is Raya celebrated in Malaysia?

On the 1st day of Syawwal, which Malaysians call ‘Raya Pertama‘ (first day of Raya), people flock to the mosques and suraus for Eid prayers, all dressed up in new clothes — baju Melayu for men and children and baju kurung or baju kebaya for ladies and girls — with matching brand-new shoes or sandals.

The prayers are not obligatory but most people try to go. Many ladies often have to stay behind at home for final preparations of the food, because after prayers, people naturally rush home to eat. The Raya spread usually includes ketupat (rice inside woven young coconut leaves which has been boiled for four hours) and rendang (chicken or beef simmered in coconut milk and spices, continuously mixed until most of the liquid has evaporated and all that’s left is a rich thick paste to be eaten with the meat).

The whole family then gathers round because it’s customary for children to kiss their parents’ hands and ask for forgiveness for all their shortcomings for the past year. The kissing of the hands literally means that — kissing the back of the right hand of one’s parent or elder — unlike the Philippine version, which just involves touching the back of the right hand of one’s parent or elder to one’s forehead.

The parents then give the child duit Raya, very similar to the Chinese ang pao, except that the money is usually placed in a green packet. Only children who are not yet working and are not yet married are eligible to receive duit Raya. Children who are already working are also expected to give duit Raya to their younger siblings.

The first three days of Raya are usually reserved for visiting close relatives. From the fourth day onwards, friends and business acquaintances start dropping by with very little lead time, if at all. And this is where all the feasting comes in — as you go to each house, you are served food and you are, of course, expected to eat so as not to offend your host(ess).

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Balik Kampung (Lyrics)

These are the lyrics to the song “Balik Kampung” (‘Back To My Hometown’) by the late Malaysian singer, Sudirman, roughly translated into English by yours truly:

Balik Kampung

Perjalanan jauh tak ku rasa
(The journey is long but I don’t feel it)
Kerna hati ku melonjak sama
(Because my heart is jumping)
Ingin berjumpa sanak saudara
(Longing to see my family & relatives)
Yang selalu bermain di mata
(Who seem to be in front of my very eyes already)

Nun menghijau gunung ladang dan rimba
(In the distance, see the green mountains, fields and forest)
Langit nan tinggi bertambah birunya
(The sky so high seems to be bluer than ever)
Deru angin turut sama berlagu
(Even the blowing of the wind sounds like music to my ears)
Semuanya bagaikan turut gembira
(As though, everything is as happy as me)

Balik kampung oh oh…( 3X )
(Back to my hometown)
Hati girang
(My heart is happy/elated)
Ho ho… Balik kampung (3X)
(Back to my hometown)
Hati girang
(My heart is happy/elated)

Terbayang wajah-wajah yang ku sayang
(I can imagine the faces that I love)
Satu-satu tersemat di kalbu
(Each one of them in my heart)
Pasti terubat rindu di hati
(The longing in my heart will surely be cured)
Menyambut kepulangan ku nanti
(They will welcome my return)

Perjalanan jauh tak ku rasa
(The journey is long but I don’t feel it)
Kerna hati ku melonjak sama
(Because my heart is jumping)
Ingin berjumpa sanak saudara
(Longing to see my family & relatives)
Yang selalu bermain di mata
(Who seem to be in front of my very eyes already)

Nun menghijau gunung ladang dan rimba
(In the distance, see the green mountains, fields and forest)
Langit nan tinggi bertambah birunya
(The sky so high seems to be bluer than ever)
Deru angin turut sama berlagu
(Even the blowing of the wind sounds like music to my ears)
Semuanya bagaikan turut gembira
(As though, everything is as happy as me)

Balik kampung oh oh…( 3X )
(Back to my hometown)
Hati girang
(My heart is happy/elated)
Ho ho… Balik kampung (3X)
(Back to my hometown)
Hati girang
(My heart is happy/elated)

Terbayang wajah-wajah yang ku sayang
(I can imagine the faces that I love)
Satu-satu tersemat di kalbu
(Each one of them in my heart)
Pasti terubat rindu di hati
(The longing in my heart will surely be cured)
Menyambut kepulangan ku nanti
(They will welcome my return)

This song is commonly heard this time of the year, played over and over and over again in shopping centres and on the radio, as Hari Raya Aidilfitri is always associated with balik kampung and family. I used to get annoyed with it but, now that I understand what the lyrics mean, I actually find myself singing along merrily! :D

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Update (14-Oct-08):

Click here to listen to a snippet of the song. The full song is available for download from this site.

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Balik Kampung… Ooohh… Balik Kampung

The exodus has begun.

Hordes of cars, buses and motorcycles now clog the North-South Expressway for people bound to the north (Ipoh, Penang, Kedah) and the south (Seremban, Malacca, Johor, Singapore).  You can see the same thing along Karak Highway for people bound for Pahang, Terengganu and Kelantan. Flights to Sabah, Sarawak, and even to Indonesia are all fully booked. The same goes for the trains and ferries.

North-South Expressway
The North-South Expressway on a normal day. Expect bumper-to-bumper traffic during the balik kampung rush!  [Side note: The highways are well-maintained and free of potholes the whole length, and lined with trees, shrubs and flowers all year round.]

With so much traffic on all major roads and highways, expect all designated rest areas and petrol stations to be filled with people. Prepare to queue at the toilets, squeeze your way into an empty spot in the surau, jostle among the crowd to buy nasi lemak or nasi ayam. And don’t expect to reach your intended destination in the usual amount of time it gets there. The two-hour trip to Ipoh, for instance, can take 4 to 5 hours. If you’re lucky! If a car breaks down or if an accident happens, it could take even longer.

This phenomenon is called balik kampung (balik: go back, kampung: village) , which peaks during Hari Raya Aidilfitri (Raya for short) and Chinese New Year but which also takes place on school holidays, a long weekend or a public holiday that coincides with the weekend.

Malaysians always go back to their kampung every chance they get — whether it’s a kampung house by a sawa padi (rice field) in Kedah, or an estate house within a palm plantation in Johor, or a semi-detached house in Kuala Selangor. They give a whole new meaning to the phrase “There’s no place like home.”

I can’t blame them. Before I married DH, I used to tag along with some friends to their respective kampungs so I got an idea of what it’s like. There’s so much cooking and chatting and so many other activities — kuih (cookies) to be baked, curtains to be put up, walls to be painted, dodol to be cooked — with the kids having the most fun of all,  running in and out and around (and sometimes, under) the house, big. Never mind if the house is so full that the children all have to sleep in the lounge and some of the men have to make do with the porch. Never mind if you’ve got to wake up at daybreak just to make sure you get to have your bath without having to queue. As they say, the more, the merrier!

Even the Indians and Chinese who do not celebrate Raya join the balik kampung rush because the week-long holiday is a good opportunity to go back to their hometowns, as well. Others simply take this as an opportunity for a holiday with the family.

The official Raya holidays are only two days — 1st and 2nd of October –but it’s customary for companies to either give one or two days extra holiday (cuti ehsan) to their staff or, as in our company’s case, everyone is required to file for leave. We’ve tried many times in the past to shorten the holiday, setting up some elaborate system where some people were supposed to take leave early and go back to work early, while some people take leave only on the eve of Raya and take their leave after Raya. But it never worked. Suddenly, the HR (Human Resource Department) would get employees taking emergency leaves and sick leaves in droves. Hence, this year, our last day of work was last Saturday, everyone had to file for leave for Monday, Tuesday and Friday (Wednesday and Thursday being the official holidays) and are expected to report back for work next Monday.

For couples who come from different states, they’ve devised all sort of ways of determining which kampung to go back to everytime. If the states are too far apart, they usually take turns (this year, Johor; next year, Kelantan) or, if their respective kampungs are not that far away (say, Seremban and Kuala Selangor), perhaps the first day of Raya will be at the husband’s kampung, then they drive to the wife’s kampung on the second day. Something like that.

I never had to deal with that situation because my husband is from KL and my family is now in KL, as well. How I used to feel envious with all my friends who had kampungs to go back to! But now that I have five children, I’m soooo relieved I won’t have to go through the whole thing. I can’t imagine being cooped in a car for five hours (or more) with five children who are bound to get more restless, hungry and cranky with every passing hour! I feel truly amazed with people who somehow manage the annual trip back to their kampung with their families, their cars crammed with bags and food and kuih and toys, so full that they might as well get themselves some moving pods ;)

Nowadays, I take long holidays as an opportunity to unwind at home. When I do go out, I enjoy driving slowly on the roads of KL as there is very little traffic, if any, even along the usual hotspots — Jalan Tun Razak, Jalan Hang Tuah, Pudu Raya, Jalan Cheng Lok (the usual roads mentioned in daily rush hour traffic reports!) .

But, whatever you do, stay away from KLCC and Zoo Negara (National Zoo). On holidays like these, those two places will be packed with foreign workers, mostly men, from countries like Myanmar (Burma), Cambodia, Vietnam, Bangladesh, Pakistan, Nepal, India and Indonesia.

Many shopping centres will be closed for half a day or one day (usually on the first day) but reopen on the second day. All hypermarkets remain open, like usual, which is great for last-minute stuff like tomato paste for your spaghetti sauce or santan (coconut cream) for your rendang.

Wishing all my Malaysian readers a safe trip home! When the traffic gets too bad, just sit back, relax, crank up the radio and sing along: “Balik kampung….ooohhh…balik kampung….

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We’ve Come A Long Way, Baby

Last week, while waiting for my flight to Jakarta, I couldn’t help but overhear this guy’s (one-sided) telephone conversation:

(His mobile phone rings and he answers)
Hello?
Ya. (Yes)
Di KL. Baru balik. (In KL. I just got back.)

From that short snippet, I surmised that the guy probably travels a lot, hence the caller asked first if he’s in KL or overseas. Kinda like DH. He travels so often, most people usually ask him that question first whenever they call him. At least, only those people who can’t tell the difference between a roaming ringing tone and a local ringing tone.

Nothing extraordinary about the conversation, right? Yes and no.

These days, most everyone have mobile phones, even children.  OnlyGirl’s been bugging me at what age she can have her own. (I haven’t committed anything yet.) Phones have become so affordable, with an original Nokia or Sony Ericcson retailing at RM168 in KL. Prepaid numbers are very easy to purchase, too, with very affordable start-up packages.

So if I’m to think of the abovementioned telephone conversation from today’s point of view, there’s nothing extraordinary about it at all.

But on the other hand, if I’m to think about how things were like in the early 90′s, then that conversation shows how far we’ve come so far in terms of telecommunications.

In the early 90′s, mobile phones were so expensive that very few people had them. They were huge, as well. I remember how I became the envy of my officemates when I bought myself a Motorola flip phone, then one of the hottest and slimmest phones in the market.  It had black and white screen, of course, and was quite a brick, by today’s standards. DH got himself a tiny Samsung, which was small enough to put inside his shirt pocket. Unfortunately, due to its size and weight, it fell into a longkang (open drain) one fine day.

When the then telco Emartel (013) was launched, they offered phones at something like RM75 only, as long as you signed up with them for a year or something. Naturally, I quickly grabbed that chance to have my own mobile phone. Never mind if Emartel’s coverage at that time was so bad, there were very few places where I could make or receive calls.

Eventually, I decided to terminate my Emartel account. Had I known that they’d eventually merge with Celcom (019), I would have hung on to my very special number back then (*sigh*).

But even if you possessed a mobile phone back then, overseas travel rendered it useless, as roaming was only introduced later on. I remember how excited I was going through Maxis’ website when they offered roaming services for the first time. True, the countries that were covered at that time were still limited in number, but it was a welcome change from waiting for DH to contact me with his hotel room number, telephone number and fax number everytime he goes overseas.

So, going back to that telephone conversation that I mentioned earlier, I’d say it was pretty extraordinary, if I’m to think about it bearing in mind the events that took place in the 90′s.

These days, we have SMS, MMS, GPRS, 3G, video mail, mobile banking, mobile internet, phones with built-in cameras, MP3/MP4  players and movie players, even phones that act as a virtual fitness coach. The possibilities that lie ahead are only limited by memory chips, flash memory and some other technology yet undiscovered as I write this post. No, no, make that limitless possibilities!

We’ve definitely come a long way, baby.

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Feed Your Kids’ Imagination

The array of toys currently available in the market — both in brick-and-mortar shops and online stores — can be quite bewildering. Should you go for a Wii or an xbox 360 or a PSP? Should you buy a remote-controlled toy car or one of those electronic pets?

When buying toys for your kids (or your friend’s kids…or your niece or nephew), my advice to you is: buy a toy that will feed a child’s imagination. And it doesn’t have to be expensive. Your best bets would be Lego, wooden blocks, MegaBloks, ZOOB, and all other toys that can be used to make or build anything and everything. Children will never tire of these toys and will encourage them to use their imagination.

twins at play

Another good choice would be cooking toys. A lot of people wouldn’t even think about getting such toys for boys, but I never gave it a second thought and have always allowed my twins to play with them. I mean, what’s the big deal? Most chefs are men anyway.

A less controversial choice for boys would be toy cars. Not the expensive, battery-operated type — anything with wheels will do but just make sure it’s made of sturdy material. Toy cars go together very well with wooden blocks. The kids will make bridges and roads and gates using the blocks, then let the cars go over, under and through them. And just as I allow my twin boys to play with cooking toys, I also buy toy cars for OnlyGirl.

Modelling clay or Play-Doh are also excellent choices but they tend to be quite messy, especially if you have rugs in your home, so kids need more supervision when playing with them.

Why the stress on feeding their imagination? So that they’ll learn to think for themselves, to be creative, to be spontaneous. So that on those days when there’s no TV, no computer, no video games, nor toys, they can still find a way to amuse themselves.

My bigger children, for instance, on days when the computer is down or when heavy rain interferes with TV reception, they amuse themselves with their own made-up game involving Pokemon but armed only with pencils, a few pieces of paper and their imagination.

And ever since I introduced Lego Duplo and wooden blocks to my twins, I can finally have time to work on my blog posts or check email while they play in a corner. Like earlier this evening. While I was browsing my friends’ updates on Facebook, they were busy creating castles and bridges with their blocks.

When on a road trip, I can entertain the kids by pointing out clouds with interesting shapes. They actually try to out-do each other in their interpretation of those shapes.

Children learn through play so take this opportunity to mould those young minds with your choice of toys for them!

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