Juggling Motherhood & A Career

Foreword: I wrote this article for a Polish magazine called ‘Voice For Life’. This article was originally written I wrote it in English, then it was translated into Polish by Ms. Alicja Babkiewicz and published in the January 2009 issue of ‘Voice For Life’ the said magazine.

I hold a senior position in a Malaysian company that is in the manufacturing sector. My job entails long hours, dinner meetings, meetings during weekends, and a lot of overseas travel. So when people find out that I’m also a mother (and to five children at that!), they always ask me in amazement how I manage to do it.

article in ‘Voice for Life’ Jan 2009

 

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Seat 9A

Flight KL809, Kuala Lumpur-Jakarta

She was already seated in my assigned seat, 9A, as was printed on my boarding pass, when I arrived, rushing, into the cabin, being one of the last three passengers to board. After I stowed away all my hand luggage in the overhead compartment, she got up and gestured that we exchange places. I smiled and said “No problem”, as I settled into 9B and fastened my seatbelt.

She was dressed comfortably but immaculately, her auburn hair tied up loosely in a ponytail. She was clutching an Indonesian phrasebook and the French version of Khaled Hosseini’s “A Thousand Splendid Suns” (Mille Soleils Splendides) in her hand, so I automatically assumed that she’s French. I wanted to strike up a conversation with her, dying to practice whatever little French I remember, but she closed her eyes even before the plane took off.

When meals were served some 30 minutes into the flight, she opened her eyes briefly to nibble on her braised chicken and fried rice, sipping delicately on her red wine. She asked for tea from the stewardess after the trays were cleared away, but the tea remained untouched on her table as she dozed off again, leaving me alone with my thoughts on the pros and cons of led light bulbs.

At some point during the flight, turbulence threatened to spill her tea, so I touched her elbow gently and she awoke with a start. But her eyes smiled with her lips as she murmured a heavily accented “Thank you” after she realised how close she was to having her skirt drenched with hot tea. After hastily downing the contents of her paper cup, her delicate eyelids closed shut once more.

She only opened her eyes again as the plane slowly started its descent and the chief stewardess requested the passengers to turn off all electronic items and stow away the tables. That’s when I decided to take my chances and talk to her. I smiled and asked in English if she’s in Jakarta on holiday. She smiled back broadly and answered yes, she’s visiting her son.

Emboldened, I asked her, this time in French, “Vous etes Française?” (Are you French?). She laughed and answered to me in Bahasa Indonesia, “Saya dari Madrid.” (I am from Madrid.)

And so started the most interesting short conversation I ever had with a stranger on a plane. Apparently, she’s a native of Madrid who goes to Jakarta twice a year, staying for about a month each time. Her son, (Spanish) daughter-in-law and three cucu (Indonesian/Malay for ‘grandchildren’) have been living in Jakarta for nine years already and speak Indonesian like locals, hence encouraging her to learn the language, as well. And that’s exactly what made the conversation truly unforgettable — while I spoke to her with whatever Spanish I could muster, she was speaking to me in halting Indonesian, interspersed with some Spanish words that she asked me to translate into Indonesian!

Alas the flight was over too soon. As the plane touched down in Cengkareng Airport, I wished her a safe trip and invited her to stop over in KL next time. She smiled one last smile and promised to do so in her next trip.

It’s small moments like this that make a trip unforgettable and travel an experience like no other.

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¡Ojalá!

daffodil

No hay amor
Como este amor;
No hay amante
Como mi amante.
Ojalá que este amor y amante
Se queden conmigo
Mas allá de la muerte.

(There’s no love
Like my love;
There’s no lover
Like my lover.
I pray to God that this love and lover
Stay with me
Even beyond forever.)

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Birthday Wishes

I was tagged by mom-to-be, Eper, with a meme that requires 4 things:-

  1. List down what you want for your birthday…
  2. The list should be 10 numbers
  3. Post the image of this award in your posting
  4. Give it to 10 friends of yours.

My birthday is, like, 9 months away (sufficient time to conceive and give birth to a baby haha!) but I’m afraid that if I put off writing this post any longer, I might end up forgetting about it.

So here’s my list, from the obsessive (#1), to the mundane (#2 and #3), to the ones I’m really praying for (#9 and #10), in no particular order:-

  1. A Nikon D90. Just the body will do, but the deal will be even sweeter if it comes with a brand-new lens, specifically an 18-200mm VR! The D90′s been on my wish list for quite some time now. My D40 takes mighty fine pictures but the D90 can do something that my D40 can’t — take videos. And in high definition, no less!
  2. All 7 Harry Potter books, the American edition. The American edition books have those cute illustrations at the beginning of each chapter which the British edition books don’t have. [NB: Malaysians get the British edition.]
  3. A knitter-wanna-be’s starter kit. I want to learn how to knit but don’t even know what to buy or where to start.
  4. Jewelry. No woman would ever say no to jewelry. Okay, okay, this particular woman (moi) would never say no to jewelry! :D
  5. An MPV. Because I’ve got 5 kids. And I always drive all 5 of them around, together with their nanny. And a car’s too small for such a task. Plus, there’s the new law in Malaysia that requires everyone in the backseat to buckle up, as well. (It used to be just for the driver and the passenger in front.)
  6. Go on a nice, loooong holiday. I travel a lot, but mostly for work, so I really look forward to a trip where I don’t have to rush anywhere to do anything, where I can stop anytime to take as many photos as my heart desires…and to stay for as long as I want. (Reality check: This would be impossible to do because of family and work commitments. But we’re talking about wishes, right?)
  7. Make money from my photography (Moo cards? Calendars thru Lulu.com?) and recover the cost of my ‘investment’.
  8. Go tandem-paragliding in Switzerland. It’s something I’ve always wanted to do but never got to, even though I’ve been to Switzerland three times already.
  9. Get my PR (permanent residence). Uh, anyone out there with connections at the Malaysian Immigration Department? ;)
  10. That my mom remain cancer-free. One year and a half down, three and a half more to go before the doctor can declare her truly cancer-free…

Josiet, Janet, MrsG, Sinta, FrancescaInFrance, Kumareng Grace, Kak Haza, Safiyyah’s Mama, Weng, WitsAndNuts, what’s on your list of birthday wishes?

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The Empire Hotel, Brunei

Of all the places that my children have been to so far, the one place they keep begging that we visit again is the Empire Hotel and Country Club in Brunei.

How can I blame them? The place, as I remember it, was spectacular. The room was huge. And so was the bed. And the sheets were made of the softest cotton, so soft they felt like satin. The sheets alone made me want to lounge in bed the whole day…

Empire Hotel room

The bathroom — done up in glass, marble, and gold — was equally spacious. It reminded me a lot of the Trump Tower in New York City. Except that the Trump Tower’s bathroom was a lot smaller.
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