Comments on: ‘So Lonely I Could Die’ http://www.sleeplessinkl.com/2008/09/08/so-lonely-i-could-die Losing sleep over kids, work, travel & photography Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:45:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Mimi http://www.sleeplessinkl.com/2008/09/08/so-lonely-i-could-die/comment-page-1#comment-738 Mimi Thu, 11 Sep 2008 04:46:37 +0000 http://www.sleeplessinkl.com/2008/09/08/so-lonely-i-could-die#comment-738 Wow! What a revelation! Thank you so much for sharing. You are right -- post partum depression doesn't make us any less a mother. And we NEED to talk to someone about it. I hope you won't ever have to deal with this ever again in your next pregnancies! Wow! What a revelation! Thank you so much for sharing.

You are right — post partum depression doesn’t make us any less a mother. And we NEED to talk to someone about it.

I hope you won’t ever have to deal with this ever again in your next pregnancies!

]]> By: Farra http://www.sleeplessinkl.com/2008/09/08/so-lonely-i-could-die/comment-page-1#comment-735 Farra Wed, 10 Sep 2008 06:00:13 +0000 http://www.sleeplessinkl.com/2008/09/08/so-lonely-i-could-die#comment-735 I know exactly how it feels! Communication and getting the right support from your partner are also crucial. Mine was very supportive, understanding and patience. He noticed but kept to himself as I was in denial, until one night when I couldn't hold up anymore I burst crying, pouring my heart out to him. That one good night meant a lot to me, to us, as I woke up the next day a new person, his wife again and a mother. After that night, following his advice, I took one step at a time and came out of PPD. It is very frustrating as PPD struck me with my first baby. I missed those days when I should be enjoying "...the delicious scent of your newborn baby. Enjoy those tiny little fingers and toes while they’re still tiny" and I agree with you PPD does not happen to everyone. If it does happen to you, it happens for a reason. I was ashamed of it. It is a taboo in Malay culture ("Meroyan" - that explains the denial stage) but think that I should just make it public and tell everyone that it is ok to feel that way. It doesn't make you less a mother. Get help the soonest possible. Be truthful to yourself and yes, keep yourself busy! Now, I'm enjoying and loving my LittleOne everyday ;D I know exactly how it feels!

Communication and getting the right support from your partner are also crucial. Mine was very supportive, understanding and patience. He noticed but kept to himself as I was in denial, until one night when I couldn’t hold up anymore I burst crying, pouring my heart out to him. That one good night meant a lot to me, to us, as I woke up the next day a new person, his wife again and a mother. After that night, following his advice, I took one step at a time and came out of PPD.

It is very frustrating as PPD struck me with my first baby. I missed those days when I should be enjoying “…the delicious scent of your newborn baby. Enjoy those tiny little fingers and toes while they’re still tiny” and I agree with you PPD does not happen to everyone. If it does happen to you, it happens for a reason.

I was ashamed of it. It is a taboo in Malay culture (“Meroyan” – that explains the denial stage) but think that I should just make it public and tell everyone that it is ok to feel that way. It doesn’t make you less a mother. Get help the soonest possible. Be truthful to yourself and yes, keep yourself busy!

Now, I’m enjoying and loving my LittleOne everyday ;D

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