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A very good friend of mine is experiencing major heartbreak right now, which got me to thinking about the oft-repeated quotation: “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
But is it better really???
If you have loved and lost…
- You’ll have first-hand knowledge of how wonderful it is to love and be loved. But the moment you lose that love, you’ll spend the rest of your life looking for the same euphoric high. If you get a second chance, well and good. If you don’t, you could end up wishing you never knew what it was like in the first place.
- Things will never be the same again. It’s just like finally having known the freedom, ease and convenience of having your own car, then suddenly having to take public transportation again. Sucks, huh?
- You might spend the rest of your life pining for your lost love.
- You’ll forever be haunted by the “what-if’s”.
- You could end up a cynic.
If you’ve never loved at all…
- Ignorance is bliss. When you don’t know what you’re missing, it won’t matter to you if you never find it at all.
- But then again, you’ll forever be wondering what the hype in all those movies, paperbacks, telenovelas and love stories is all about.
- No man is an island. And things can get pretty lonely when you’re solo far too long, especially when friends start living their happily-ever-after’s one by one and you start feeling like an extra finger on a glove everytime you go out with them couples.
Share with me your thoughts on the subject, people!
Tags: love
August 25th, 2008 at 4:02 am
I hope your friend can bounce back. Yes, a relationship that ends brings so much pain. But nothing happens for a reason. After grieving, one has to move on with his/her life.
I’d choose: “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” Why? At least I had the experience to love and be loved. Second, the happy memories shared together will be worth remembering.
August 25th, 2008 at 12:58 pm
you’ve always been a romantic! :) but you’re right. everything happens for a reason although it may take us a long time to realise the wisdom behind it all, if ever.
August 25th, 2008 at 10:09 pm
Please give your friend a tight hug from me. I just went through a break-up and it hurt like hell. In the long run, I still prefer to experience to love and be loved. It’s a wonderful feeling.
Please tell your friend that it will hurt badly, but it will pass.
August 26th, 2008 at 8:11 am
Naku. I feel for your friend. I’ve been there, and it’s not the easiest thing in the world. As for me, I choose love, despite the crash and burn. It makes life rich and full, and each heartbreak allows us to get to know ourselves a little better. With that, I can say I now know myself very well. ;)
August 26th, 2008 at 11:39 am
kayni: thanks. she’s picking up the pieces now but we all know the wound will take some time to heal completely.
j: wow. such positive thoughts! thanks for sharing.
August 26th, 2008 at 11:25 pm
hmm, i went through a heartbreak too, after a 6-year relationship went cold. it hurt, and in all of my 26years, only then i went rockbottom. having found my one true love after nursing a broken heart, i can look back at the old relationship and can remember only the good times. i can never regret falling in love then, because it taught me so many things, and prepared me to be a better person for my husband.
hope your friend recovers soon. no words can soothe her i know, but a hug will suffice. :)
August 27th, 2008 at 12:38 am
thanks, ‘dette :)